I have Great News!!


I just wanted to stop by and tell you that I had an appointment with my psychiatrist yesterday and she said I looked like a different person. She said I’m so much better and that she was very happy to see me. She reduced my medication and so I’m no longer on Bupropion and Mexazolam, which I have been taking for the longest time.

I’m just so happy about this.

It’s the first time I’ve seen a real improvement and reduction on my medication, after years of increasing it, changing it, trial and error. I’ve been dealing with anxiety and depression since I was 18. I was diagnosed and first medicated at 22. I’ve been through 2 psychiatrists, 5 therapists and I know 75% of antidepressants, mood stabilizers and anti anxiety pills on the market.

I wish I didn’t have so much information. But since I do, I need to make sure I share it with others. And I promise you I’ll do that. For those of you who are still struggling, I’ll share my detailed experience and do my best to help.

Today, I just want to tell you it’s possible to get better. I’m not cured and I don’t know when/if I’ll ever be, but I’m finally so much better.

Trust me, I have seen the darkest side of life. I’ve felt it. I’ve lived with a huge cloud over my head for years. I’ve been through life carrying a backpack full of rocks for way too long. I’ve hated myself, everyone else, life itself. Everything has seemed pointless. Everyone has looked like an enemy. Death has been a wish.

I know it’s difficult and sometimes unfair/hard to compare, but I can tell you I had one of the most serious and difficult cases of clinical depression. I know quite a few people who have suffered from depression and they all got better so much easily, faster, sooner. That was frustrating and I would get angry because I seemed to have it worse than everyone else. I actually did. Years of extreme stress, heartbreak, responsibilities, growing up too fast, taking care of others, being strong for them, a bad childhood, among other things had collapsed on me, so I was dealing with 20 something years worth of trauma, damage, exhaustion. I wasn’t having an episode of depression. I was having THE episode of depression I had been holding inside me forever. It hit me hard, with no mercy.

God knows how much I’ve been through because of my mental health.

God knows how much Rui has been through because of it.

That guy is a saint.

I don’t say this because I love him, I say this because I know him. He is a rock. He’ll take care of you, provide you with whatever you need, comfort you, be there for you emotionally, know how to handle an anxiety attack, do extensive research on all of your medications, make sure you take care of yourself, cook for you, clean for you, understand when you simply cannot get out of bed, cuddle you, give you hope, say you’re beautiful when you’ve put on 60 pounds, make you laugh when you really want to cry, protect you, tell you you’ll find the best possible doctor and care, no matter how much you’ll have to spend or how you’re going to find the money for, do his best to make you smile, be your shoulder to cry on, defend you, tell people who think “depression is in your head” they’re fucking idiots and ignorants who should go and get some information, be your mother’s best friend, your sister’s big brother, be there for your appointments, get you the things you like because they’ll make you a little happy, get really angry at you because you don’t eat properly, be your absolute best friend, caretaker, boyfriend, husband, lover, confidant, partner, fan, the one who makes up for whatever is missing.

I think everyone should have someone like Rui in their lives.

We’ve been through thick and thin and we’re still together. We’ve really been through some real “grown up” problems for the past 5 years we’ve been together. There was never cheating, jealousy, cellphone checking, lying, issues with exes. We’ve been dealing with real, hard, old married couple problems since we were about 22 and 22, up until now. I guess we’ve passed the test.

What I really want to say is, I’m not cured. I may never be. I don’t mind really, as long as I have the proper care. But today, finally, I can say that I am far BETTER. Better is a beautiful word. So I’m happy about better. Better is more than enough.

Thank you for everything, guys.

If you’re going through a similar journey, we’re together. Talk to me. Let me be there for you.


44 thoughts on “I have Great News!!

  1. This is so wonderful to hear, I’m so, so glad things have turned a corner and are brighter. I don’t think there’s a ‘cure’ for depression per se, but a way of better managing it, where that rucksack of rocks is lighter and life is easier rather than like trudging through mud and hating the world. I’m also glad you have Rui, and I think you’re doing an amazing thing sharing your journey and experience here! ♥
    Caz xx

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  2. l am so happy for you! I also suffer from anxiety and depression. Some days are better than others. I am still learning howtoat deal with finding a person that understands you andisyour rock is very important. My fiancee has always been therefor me no matter what. heis still around but waking alot more which has effected my anxiety alittle due to me takingover 95% of the homelife. I know sounds selfish but when your rock Isn’t around as much as it was, you have to figure out how to deal with it

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    • I definitely understand. We do rely on them for support and miss that help when it’s not around. I’ve tried not to be too dependent, though. I’m sure you can too. Do you have girlfriends? Someone to talk to?


  3. Wahoo, congratulations on changing your medication. You must be so proud of yourself, you’ve obviously made great progress. Keep up the great work 🙂 even though there’s bound to be hard days up ahead, believe in yourself that you can do it by remembering times like these 🙂
    Jemma x

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    • Jemma, thank you so much for your this comment. I’m very happy, yes. I know there will be dark days, and the fact that I know that is a good thing too. I’ve accepted that I won’t ever be happy or 100% all the time and that’s okay. I’ve been through really dark times so I believe I can handle whatever comes 🙂 xx

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  4. Thrilled that you are winning this fight with depression. I love hearing that someone (even someone I don’t know) is fighting the good fight against this terrible condition. I have seen people who have beat it for good so I am hopeful that you can too.- Robert

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    • So nice of you to stop by and leave this kind comment. I must confess I though I would never get better. For the longest time I could see no light at the end of the tunnel and I assumed there would never be one. I’m really happy I got to this point. I’ll try and do my best to keep getting better and hopefully beat it someday. Thank you so much for your words. xx

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  5. I am kind of in this place, though I’m still taking it one day at a time and I’m NOT in a place to reduce. But your post gives me hope! Thank you :-).

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    • You’ll be there too. You have a wonderful husband and beautiful kids and you’re stronger than you think. For the longest time I thought I would never get better, I was prepared to just live with it. I’m glad I don’t have to, at least for now.


  6. that’s so great!! i’ve never had it that bad to the point of needing meds, though a doctor did suggest it but i refused it because i didn’t think it was THAT bad. but congrats! i’m so glad she saw a change in you and any amount of progress is always good! and glad you have a support person with you, that makes it all better and much easier! 🙂

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    • Thank you so much! It was good that you listened to your body and mind and refused medication because you felt you didn’t need it. But there’s always the other side. If it happens again, ask for the opinion of your loved ones, especially your husband. Not that I’m a specialist, I’ve just been THAT bad and refusing and/or stopping to take my meds. That’s a symptom, thinking you don’t need them. Then my mom, Rui, my sister and mom in law would ask me to please take them because they had never seen me that sick, even if I thought I was ok. I listened to them, thankfully. It was hard because I’m a control freak and “I make my own decisions” type of person but you do what you got to do. Sorry for the super long answer.

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