Random Catch-up: Peeing on the Rug, Fighting Old Ladies and Eating Soup

Good morning, everyone! (it’s 11.48 am when I’m starting this post)

Honestly, it feels like afternoon to me because I started working at 7.30 this morning. Olívia wake up to eat somewhere around 3 am so I didn’t really get much sleep last night. I’ll try to sneak in a nap with the girls later.

I haven’t been blogging much, mostly because I’ve been busy and also because I haven’t really felt like it. These days, at 32 years old, I’m not big on making myself do things I don’t want to do, unless they’re an obligation, which blogging is not.

This is what’s been happening around here:

1. Postpartum Health Check

Last week I finally went for my postpartum bloodwork, which I should have gotten done back in January. Because I suffered from gestational diabetes in both pregnancies, I had to do a very thorough glucose test, where they took my blood (while fasting), made me drink this nasty sugary concoction and then drew some blood every 30 minutes for 2.5 hours. Thankfully, the test was negative for diabetes, which I’m still at high risk of developing after my pregnancies. My thyroid is also fine, after suffering from hypothyroidism in both pregnancies. My pregnancies sound like they were so much fun, don’t they?

Anyways, not all was well. It turned out that my iron levels are extremely low (they should be somewhere between 30 and 300 and they were at 5), which made me a little worried. I couldn’t get a hold of either my gynecologist/obstetrician or endocrinologist so I immediately scheduled an appointment with a general practitioner, who basically told me I was not dying, I just needed to take an iron supplement for a while. The next day, my gyno called and said she’d be more comfortable if I went to see a hematologist, so I scheduled an appointment with the one she recommended. Luckily, I got an appointment for a couple of days later. The blood doctor turned out to be quite the character and we spent most of the appointment talking about our kids, I absolutely loved her. She told me my iron levels were indeed very low but that, since my hemoglobin level was good, I wasn’t actually anemic, just needed to replenish my iron reserves by taking a daily pill. She also told me that I needed to get on the birth control pill, otherwise I’d keep having very abundant periods (apparently one of the causes for my low iron) so I’ll be starting it on my next period. I’m hoping it will also make me less bitchy as my hormones have been a little wacky lately. Finally, she told me my vitamin D levels are also extremely low, so I’m taking a monthly dose of it and was advised to go to the beach as much as possible in the Summer (I laughed because it made me think of Ken in the Barbie movie “my job is beach”).

TLDR: I don’t have diabetes, my iron levels and vitamin D are very low so I’m taking supplements and I need to get on the BCP so I don’t bleed like a pig when I have my period.

2. Redecorating

We’ve been taking advantage of my husband being on paternity leave to change a few things around the house. Our tiny house was more than enough for us when we first moved but it has since become too small for our family of 4 + medium sized dog.

Last month, we decided to start looking at houses to buy but ultimately decided we’d stay put for now, as the market is absolutely insane right now. Because we can’t really stretch this one house we’re finding ways to better utilize the space we do have. We ended up buying a bigger couch (which doubles as a guest bed) and new living room rug. We spend a lot of time in our living room and I wanted a bigger, more comfortable couch and a larger area rug so we can sit on the floor and play. Here’s some before and after pics:

Obvious, the living room was picked up and vacuumed before taking pictures. Things don’t usually look this tidy.

Now, I’m still looking for a couple more couch cushions, a nice throw and some new cabinets for the dinning room side but it’s already looking so much better and more spacious. It also helps that I decided to transfer all of the kids’ toys to their room and just bring out a little box of toys each day. Less clutter around.

I’m not sure how long we’ll keep the couch and rug in pristine condition, though. The whole family is currently forbidden from stepping on the rug with even slippers on, and food and drinks are absolutely not allowed on the couch, unless the kids are sleeping and can’t see us breaking the rules. Hopefully, no one will spill anything on it for at least a couple of weeks.

(As I type this, I just remembered someone had a diaper leak on my new rug just this morning. I won’t name names, I’ll just say it wasn’t me or my husband)

Days without peeing on the new rug: 8 0

Oh, we also have a new kitchen side table which we had to almost fight an old lady for. We were in the process of buying it (on our way to our first date night in months so picture us carrying it to the car while very overdressed) when an old lady approaches and says “oh, I was coming to buy that one!” to which my husband proceeded to ask “had you asked them to save it for you?” and to which I wanted to reply “mam, you’re not going to live long enough to enjoy it”. She hadn’t asked the store to hold it for her, so we ended up getting it, the last one, at 50% off. I honestly have never seen my husband so happy. Our wedding day and the birth of our daughters don’t compare to that moment of pure joy.

Here she is: (the table, not the old lady)

TLDR: We have a new couch and rug, someone already peed on the rug and we fought an old lady for a piece of furniture and won.

3. The New Therapist

Readers, I’ve changed therapists again. My ex-new therapist was lovely, but I wasn’t feeling 100% feeling it, so I decided to try someone new. I chose someone with more experience (30 more years, to be exact) and a male, for a change. We’ve had one session so far and I can honestly tell you that those 30 years of experience do make a difference. I have a little guilt about breaking up with my previous therapist but I feel like therapy doesn’t really work unless you find the right therapist for you.

TLDR: I’m a therapy whore.

4. Olívia is eating solids now

And by eating, I mean making faces and spitting everything out. We tried to feed her rice cereal for the first time yesterday, and she basically told me to eat it myself. Today she’s having vegetable soup/purée (potato, carrot, lettuce and onion) for lunch so we’ll see how that goes. I didn’t really want to start solids until she’s 6 months old but her pediatrician advised us to replace two of her daily meals with vegetable purée (we call it soup and that’s how everyone mostly weans their babies here) and baby rice cereal to help with her spitting up. We’ll probably do what we did with Dalila which was a mix of purées and Baby led weaning, meaning we’ll mostly feed her purées for now and then give her fruits and veggies to eat by hand after she’s 6 months old.

TLDR: Babies don’t keep.

Update: Olívia has since eaten her lunch and absolutely loved her soup. She couldn’t get enough of it. I’m very pleased.

I’m sure I have more to update you on but this post is already too long. I’ll be back soon.

Love,

Cheila

P.S. I’m writing this post on my phone, on 3 hours of sleep so there’s probably many spelling mistakes and grammar issues. I’m just saying this to defend my honor as an English teacher. Bye.

April WordPress Prompts: Nervous

What makes you nervous?

Having anxiety, there’s plenty of things that make me nervous, to be honest.

Some of them include:

– Places where people swim without a lifeguard present. Private pools, river beaches, lakes, etc.

– Driving or being in a car.

– Making or taking phone calls.

– Plane takeoff and landing.

– Being on camera.

– My babies being sick, even if it’s just a cold.

– People possibly choking on their food (for some reason I’m always expecting to have to perform the Heimlich maneuver, even though no one has ever choked in front of me)

– My daughters crying or throwing a tantrum in public. I’m not bothering by anyone else’s kids being noisy but I’m always worried mine might be bothering someone.

– Alcohol. I don’t drink and I get a little nervous when people around me are drinking.

I’m sure there’s plenty more but this is what I managed to come up with right now.

What makes you nervous?

Monday: 15.04.2024 The One Where the Living Room Lamp is Murdered

Today was a good day.

I was up later than I should have been (I had set my alarm for 7 am but hit snooze until 7.45) and had to rush getting dressed, washing my face and drinking some coffee before teaching a private lesson at 8 am. After the lesson, I worked on some things until about noon, while Rui spent time with the girls. I assigned some homework, uploaded some worksheets to Google classroom, scheduled a driving lesson and a dentist appointment, updated my planner and just took care of some online errands.

I joined my husband and the kids in the living room, had Nutella toast for lunch (please someone call the police, this meal should be illegal) and then started my endless cycle of daily laundry and tidying up. I made our bed, vacuumed both bedrooms, put on a load of Olívia’s clothes, then a load of Dalila’s bedding, then a load of delicate laundry. I folded a load of Dalila’s laundry I had washed yesterday put it away, as well as a load of darks.

We all moved to the kitchen for lunch and Rui and I talked while I wrote down a list of things we need to get done before his paternity leave ends. He cooked and managed Dalila’s lunch and tidied the kitchen while I moved to the living room to put Olívia down for her nap. Lunchtime was a little dramatic and tantrum filled because Dalila was bitten by a mosquito (why is there no word for “melga” in English) last night and was scratching her mosquito bites nonstop. We kept trying to get her to stop because she had actually drawn blood on her face but she just wouldn’t stop scratching. I had the brilliant (as usual) idea of trying to put a bandaid on it and she absolutely lost it. Honestly, you haven’t known stress if you’ve never parented a toddler. Eventually, she stopped scratching her face because it was starting to hurt and she figured it would probably be best to leave it alone.

After lunch and cleaning up, Rui took her to our bedroom and tried to get her down for her afternoon nap but she definitely wasn’t having it today. Meanwhile I took a shower while Olívia happily watched from her swing, which I placed near the shower. It’s funny how different my girls are. Dalila used to scream like a banshee if I so much as looked in a different direction but Olívia is content as long as she can see me.

After an unsuccessful nap attempt, Rui went for a run (after we sat for half an hour debating where we’d go for dinner) while I stayed with the babies. Olívia napped in Dalila’s crib while I tidied up the living room and cleaned behind the couch. At some point I looked away for two seconds and Dalila managed to pull a glass lamp from a side table and it broke. It wasn’t a big deal because nobody got hurt and we moved to their bedroom so I could prevent her from getting into the glass shards on the floor. We played while Olívia napped and daddy cleaned up the broken lamp when he came home from his run. He then showered and gave Dalila a bath while I fed and changed Olívia. We all got dressed and went to dinner at this Japanese/Chinese buffet. Olívia slept the entire time and Dalila ate her weight in noodles, crab legs and strawberries.

After dinner, we stopped by the pharmacy to get something for Dalila’s bug bites, fully knowing she wasn’t going to let us actually apply anything to her face. I’m now writing this after getting Olívia down for the night while my husband is putting Dalila to bed (we alternate putting them to bed).

I’m very tired but still have a few things to do before bed and I’d like to read a little and maybe spend some time with my husband. Hopefully, I won’t be too sleepy to do my skincare routine.

Love,

Cheila

April WordPress Prompts – A Boring Middle Aged Mom

Where do you see yourself in 10 years?

In 10 years, I’ll be 42 years old and my husband will be 43. My oldest daughter, Dalila, will be turning 12 and my youngest, Olívia, will be 10. Sadly, I don’t think Rosa is still going to be with us. She’ll be 9 years old in May and I don’t know many dogs who have lived to be 19.

I’m sure my husband and I will still be married (if we were to ever get divorced, it would probably have happened by now with how much we’ve been through) and I hope we’re still happy, in love and annoying each other as much as we do now. Hopefully, we’ll own a house or, ideally, a small farm. By then, I will have worn him out and he’ll be okay with me having chickens, a bunch of cats, a few dogs and a guinea pig. My husband will be training for some sort of marathon or triathlon and getting ready to retire from his IT job and becoming a full time farmer and wine maker.

Professionally, I hope to be working in healthcare as either a nurse or a doctor, while also teaching some healthcare related course at a university. 10 years is more than enough time to finally pursue my dream career. I hope to have found some physical activity I enjoy and that I’m keeping healthy, while still constantly working on my physical and mental health. By 40, I will be a healthy weight and I will have developed a better relationship with food.

Will we have more children? Probably not. Definitely not biological ones. Pregnancy is too hard on my body and I don’t want to go through a third C-section. Maybe we’ll adopt a child. Not necessarily a baby, but an older one.

What will the girls be into at 10 and 12? I have no idea. I can’t imagine having 2 middle schoolers. Will Dalila be as sassy as she is now? Probably more. Will Olívia be as sweet and gentle as she is as a baby or will she have developed a feistier personality? Honestly, I don’t care what they’re like and what they do, as long as they’re good people and live a happy life. Some parents have very specific dreams for their children but I honestly couldn’t care less if they’re gay or straight, if they choose whatever religion, if they go to college, if they get married. I’m not entitled to their dreams, I’m only allowed to help them pursue them. Overall, I hope they are truly happy and that they enjoy the life I have given them.

So, that’s it. In 10 years, I hope to be living a very boring and mundane life. Having bad days at work, occasionally wanting to murder my husband, sometimes dreaming about faking my own death so I don’t have to deal with two preteen girls. Maybe traveling a little, reading books, finally sleeping and just being a middle aged mom.

Until then, hopefully I’ll make good changes while enjoying the ride.

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April WordPress Prompts: A Very Positive Change

Describe one positive change you have made in your life.

One of the most positive changes I’ve made in my life is getting rid of excess stuff.

I used to keep things just in case I might need them some day, which never happened, so stuff would just pile up in my small house. Suddenly, after my first daughter was born, I felt this urge to throw out, sell or donate everything I wasn’t actually using. I ended up tossing about 75% of my belongings. Do I miss any of those items? Absolutely not.

The list of things I got rid of includes:

– Occasion dresses I wasn’t planning on ever wearing again (outfits I had worn to weddings, for example)

– Shoes I had never even worn.

– Clothes that didn’t fit.

– Supposed sentimental items such as postcards and such.

– Old notes, books and materials from school and college.

– Books and materials I wasn’t using for work.

– Old electronics and appliances.

– Books I didn’t like or was never going to read again.

– Beauty items and unused cosmetics.

I’ll never be a minimalist but I have now gotten used to have less stuff around. I’m constantly purging and I have reached a point where I think twice about bringing something into my home. I still enjoy shopping but I no longer something just because it’s cute and cheap.

This change has honestly had an impact on my life, mental health and stress levels because I don’t do well in a cluttered environment. I still have a long way to go but I’m happy to have taken this step into simplifying my life.

What is a significant change you have made?

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