On Deleting Social Media

Good morning everyone!

I know I haven’t written in the longest time. Some of you might not even remember or follow me anymore. I want you to know that I miss you and think about blogging every single day. So much has happened. I’ve changed jobs again, not by choice, but it ended up being a blessing in disguise. We have set a wedding date too. I want to tell you all about it, all of it. But there’s just so much to say and I’m both busy and lazy and overwhelmed by how long it has been and all the changes. I’m also embarrassed because I haven’t been following your blogs at all, shame on me.

Anyway, I’m off topic here. I came to tell you about a decision I made yesterday, while in bed, before I fell asleep. I currently work in a PCI environment, meaning no phones or paper or anything that could potentially mean an information leak. Being without my phone for 8 hours feels extremely liberating. Honestly. I know some people can’t do it or get anxiety over it but I love it. I find myself not even bothering to check it at breaks or paying that much attention to it during lunchtime. When I do, however, there’s a ton of Facebook and Instagram scrolling to be done. I’ve realized I am spending a lot of my downtime just lurking around social media, because I don’t even post that much anymore. That is precious time I could spend reading blogs or books or news or doing anything but looking at pictures I even forget to like. Also, I’m no longer particularly fond of the attention nor do I need the validation of likes or selfies or filters. That’s not how I want to live my life.

I’ve only temporarily deactivated Facebook and Instagram because there’s memories there and I could change my mind eventually. I’ve permanently deleting Snapchat. As for Twitter, I’ve just realized I forgot about it. I haven’t gone there in a long time but I might just temporarily deactivate it as well. Do I want people to remember my birthday because Facebook tells them to? No. Those who matter, know my birthday. As for events, I told my friends and coworkers that they have to invite me personally or through messenger or WhatsApp (which I’m obviously keeping).

Keep in mind I’m not saying this is the right way to live. This is what’s right for me, right now. It feels awesome. But I might learn that I cannot live without social media or miss it terribly. I know for sure I’ll learn something.

Rui says I’m now on some list because it looks like I’m trying to disappear so my FBI agent and Mark Zuckerberg are now trying to understand what I might have done haha.

I would love for you to share your thoughts on social media. What’s your relationship with it right now?

Do you have any posts on this topic? If so, please leave your links in the comment section so we can all read it and discuss different views and opinions.

Thank you so much for stopping by.

Love, Cheila.

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40 thoughts on “On Deleting Social Media

  1. Shweta Suresh says:

    First of all, congratulations to the two of you. I’m so happy for you, Chey! ♥️😀🤗 My job prevents me from taking my phone to work too. So I can totally relate to what you’re saying. It’s hard at first but once you get used to staying away from social media, it doesn’t take much of an effort to stay away! Speaking from experience. Or, errrr, maybe it’s just me. Take your time, darling. Sometimes it can be difficult to balance everything. But I sure do hope that you don’t have plans to quit WordPress. Now that would be a tremendous loss for us.

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  2. Invisibly Me says:

    Cheeeeeey! I see you sometimes on Instagram but I’ve missed you in the blogging world – my, my, you have been bussssssy!

    I’m glad the change of jobs has turned out to be a blessing, and amazing news that you’ve set the wedding date. I guess that’s equal amounts excitement and stress with organising everything.

    I think it’s a good idea to get a step back from social media if it negatively affects you, even if that’s in terms of mindlessly scrolling and spending too much down time doing that when it could be spend doing something more enjoyable. I don’t use social media anywhere near as much as I used to, which used to be Facebook. I scroll to see what’s new with people and use the messaging on there. I don’t really ‘do’ Twitter, never seen the point of it. I do Insta for my blog every now and then, but I don’t go on often otherwise. I’m very much take-it-or-leave it, not too bothered with social media but there will always be parts that get to me and remind me that nobody particularly gives a crap about me unless they want something! I do think it has it’s perks in other ways though, like sharing blog posts, contacting brands for customer service help or finding out about events etc.

    Take care lovely, get some rest and I look forward to hearing more about things with you soon! 🙂
    Caz xx

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    • Cheila Belinda Cruz says:

      So good to hear from you! I’ve been loving not having it, honestly. It did nothing for me. I kept Facebook and Instagram messenger because I might need to reach someone but I don’t need to know what everyone is doing 😂 I really want to focus on my blog again. A few minutes here and there might add up to an hour per day, maybe more. There so much I can and want to do with that time. Thank you so much for stopping by. I hope you’re doing great ❤️

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  3. Bayance says:

    Yesss we don’t realize how much social media consumes us until we take a step back and think about it. I completely deleted snapchat and wanted to do the same with Instagram but since I had long distant friends, I decided to keep it but watch my time on it. Social media was something that brought me anxiety but now I know when I need to take a step back. I hope others can realize that too. Love the quote and congrats on the wedding date!

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  4. kittyp0p says:

    I know a lot of people who’ve taken breaks from social media and even sworn it off altogether, but I honestly never thought of doing it. There’s some apps I don’t use as much as I used to (Snapchat, Tumblr, and Facebook), but there’s others I use more now (like Twitter) so I feel like I might shift in my frequency of use again 🤷🏻‍♀️ I guess everybody’s habits are different and the effects depend on who you follow too!

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  5. Chanelle says:

    I have never liked Snapchat and when I cottoned on to the fact guys like to use it to ask girls for nude pictures I despise it even more. I’ve been spending less time on Facebook recently and I’ve liked it, I have deleted and deactivated in the past though. Twitter I use pretty casually but I don’t stress over it and Instagram I use to share my life, I don’t have a themed account or just want loads of followers, I use it to see behind the scenes of people and bloggers I follow and get to know them better 🙂 Good on you for having a cull and freeing up your time x

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    • Cheila Belinda Cruz says:

      Hi Chanelle. I definitely think it can be either good or bad, depending on how you use it and how it impacts your life. I’m not against social media. Some people use it to make a living, which is great. It’s a wonderful way to communicate and make friends too. But if you choose not to use it, I’m okay with that too. That’s where I’m at right now and I love the freedom. As for Snapchat, I used it mainly for the filters so I could cute pictures lol

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  6. Hunida says:

    Hi Cheila! So nice to hear from you! Tell us all about your wedding plans, please!!

    I don’t really like or even use social media. I always upload photos to Facebook though because you can never lose them there! & I also need to keep up with my family since they live in a different state than me.

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  7. starringpamela says:

    Good for you Cheila! I’m never on facebook which works well for me when people invite me to events on FB and then I never see it. I might have to deactivate mine as well or at least look into it. I have my blog “business” page tied to it so I can have a “business” Instagram account so we shall see. Glad you’re back!

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  8. 3sistersabroad says:

    my dear darling Cheila….I miss your posts so much…Is that crazy? I do understand the no phones…I was in a job like that…some people sneaked their phones onto their desk. Yet if they got caught…well is it worth it. I scroll on Facebook but rarely post. I am admin in some groups but my input is little. I post pictures on Instagram and do some blog posts. I do hope you can continue on here. Even if its a post a month. I still so want to catch up with you both when Im in Portugal.

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  9. alohandie says:

    I agree!! I just recently did a “detox” from social media because it was directly related to my anxiety https://alohandie.wordpress.com/2018/10/29/i-hope-you-understand/ & I mentioned some of the same things! I didn’t feel the need to constantly scroll, I felt that I was wasting time. I also was realllly annoyed at people portraying an always perfect life.

    I haven’t permanently deleted. I think just every now and then, it’s good to have a break or a detox. I turned off all notifications and I only check it if I have nothing else to do (which is usually never).

    Thank you for your post!!! 😍💕

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  10. Brenden James Martel says:

    I just quit social media for the thousandth time. Lol. I am through with it now for good. While I was sicker, it was the best option for communication with friends. Now, I am looking out to meeting new people, actually face to face! I wrote a post about leaving social media on my site, EverythingBrendenMartel.Com, today, actually.

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  11. frugaldod says:

    Truthfully I believe Social Media should be called Anti Social Media.
    People become very antisocial because of it. Or they stop having any restraint from saying things in person that they wouldn’t normally. I see this all the time on FB where people I have known will be timid in real life, but then be blasting people on FB. It’s not that I don’t believe FB, twitter, or insta cannot be used for good. I believe they have good uses but just like any technology it is abused. I personally mostly use FB for my blog or for messenging, but outside of that I only scroll the feed once in a blue moon.

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