A General Update in 10 Topics

We’re both still working from work and should be home until, at least, January.

I applied to nursing school back in August but didn’t get in. (I have this very old dream of becoming a doctor. Nursing school first is a possible way in)

We celebrated our first wedding anniversary on October 5th.

I’ve never thought I’d be telling you this but I’ve become a Pokémon Go player. It’s been great fun. I’ve been going on walks and have been outside more for the past couple of months than in the past few years. It’s something Rui and I do together and I absolutely love it.

My reading challenge goal for 2020 is 72 books because that’s how many I read in 2019 and I wanted to read at least as many, but I’m currently at 42 so I’m way behind. Maybe I should blame Pokémon Go.

We had a wonderful vacation in Lagos, Algarve back in September when things seemed to be back to normal, right before everything went to shit again.

I’m off social media again and have been for 3 months. I don’t plan on returning. My life is so much better “off the grid”

One of my very best friends and made of honor is getting married next year and I’m just so happy!! Her fiancé is a wonderful guy (and fellow Pokémon trainer) and they make a really great, very compatible couple. I can’t wait for the wedding.

I’ve just finished a Geriatric’s Aide online course, just because. I know it’s random but I’m interested in health in general and I feel I might volunteer or find a part time job doing something that actually matters, especially now, during the pandemic, when the elderly are so vulnerable.

I dyed my hair auburn and cut it shoulder length.

Life Update – Quarantine and Working from Home 18.05.2020

Hello everyone!!

I hope to find you all healthy.

I haven’t written in about 3 months. Honestly, I felt like I had nothing to say, with what is going on all around us. There’s so much news and so many blog posts and updates and articles, I didn’t feel like putting anything out there.

So what about us?

My husband and I are very lucky to be able to work from home, earning our full salary. Some of our friends are not that fortunate and have to be home with a partial salary, while their workplaces are closed down. My sister is an essential worker, which has me very worried, but most of our friends and family members have been safe at home.

I haven’t left the house to go anywhere but food shopping in over 2 months. We haven’t seen our friends and family in a very long time. It’s worth it, though, if we can keep everyone safe.

Things are slowly opening up now and I have to admit it makes me a little nervous. But we do need to try to get back to normal or to what is going to be our new normal anyway. We obviously have to wear a mask everywhere as it is mandatory in most places. I actually hate wearing one as I feel that it makes me touch my face so much more, but I’ll obviously wear one.

I’ve been reading a lot and I’m reading the The Twilight Saga again, as Midnight Sun is finally being released after 12 years. I have a lot of thoughts on this and will probably write a post.

Other than that I don’t have any news, I guess.

This is a pretty random post but I really just wanted to say hi and catch up a bit.

I’d be very happy to hear from you as well.

Please stay safe.

Love, Chey.

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My Resolutions for 2020 – Late as Usual (Part 1)

Hello fellow bloggers and lovely lurkers!

Today I come to you in the company of my chocolate milk and a very agitated dog, since the mailman has just paid us a visit and he’s a bad bad man, apparently.

I thought I might as well share my resolutions for 2020 because, in case they never happen, at least they’ve met the internet at some point, which makes them at least 10% real.

I should start by saying that I haven’t made any resolutions for the past couple of years for the obvious reason that there is no point in making them as I know myself too well by now. I’m not sure I should call these “resolutions” or simply a list of “shit I’ve been putting off for so long it’s becoming embarrassing”. Yup, that sounds more fitting. Honestly, I wish I could be the kind of person that could make it a goal to drink more water or eat better or whatever the cliche and keep it up forever but I’m just not. I have no discipline whatsoever when it comes to such goals. I think I’m getting better with age, but I’m not there yet. Also, I’m not that lousy when it comes to drinking water, actually. I manage to get 2-3 liters in the Summer (being a bit lazier on the weekends) and 1 to 1.5 liters in Winter. I could definitely eat better, though. (Anyone else thinking about spaghetti and meatballs right now?).

And that is why I do not make these “cliche goals” as long term. I prefer to focus on eating better tomorrow or eating more vegetables today. Then, if I fail, it doesn’t feel like I’m failing for the whole year. I hope this makes some sense. Anyway, I’m rambling.

There’s definitely 2 things that I hope will help with achieving my goals:

  1. A deadline.
  2. To start working on them ASAP.

And without further ado:

My 6 Resolutions for 2020: (Part 1)

 

1. Lose the weight

I’ve been carrying around this weight (literally) for too many years after being diagnosed and dealing with illness and SO much medication. Going from being more active and taking public transportation to sitting at a desk all day did not help either, if I’m being honest. But I’m tired of it, both physically and mentally. I’m tired of the fat jokes, and of loathing myself and what I see in the mirror. I don’t even like my wedding pictures that much, which is pretty sad. Also, I’d like to be pregnant some time in the next few years and I don’t want to add more weight to this body. I want to be the healthiest I can be for my future child. My actual goal is to lose 30 kg/60 pounds (you guys, I work with UK banking and almost wrote GBP and died laughing).

Deadline: December 2020, with a grace period of a couple of months because I want to do it in a healthy way.

Steps taken: Appointment with a nutritionist for January 29th.

 

2. Finish my Degree – History Minor. 

So I happen to have 3 credits/courses of my degree to finish, which happen to fall under my minor in History. I should have finished this in… what? 2015? Never mind. The thing is, I’ve never actually and practically needed it. I’ve worked for quite a few years in the field, I’ve taught, I’ve tutored HISTORY, I’ve prepared students for HISTORY exams and no one has ever questioned my abilities. Nevertheless, everyone who has ever known me, mostly my mother and husband, love to bust my balls about this. The funniest thing ever is that my baby sister has since started and finished uni. It’s not like I don’t care, it’s just.. I’m mostly over it. Would I have picked the same degree today at 28 years old, so many years later? No way. I know I want to go back to school at some point in my life and study something else. I’ve been back and forth with this for so long, having at some point having to quit because I was too sick. I’m ready for it to be over. And that is why I’m FINALLY going to finish it.

Deadline: June 2020 (End of school year)

Steps Taken: Applied back in November, got accepted, classes start on January 27th.

 

3. Get my Driver’s License

Oh my God, you guys! You have now idea the kind of bullying I’ve endured over the years because I do not have a license. My mother mentions it at every family dinner,  phone call, text message and my nightmares. My husband is always going on about how he’d love to be able to drink as much as he’d like to if I was able to drive him as I don’t drink at all (We DO NOT drink and drive and neither should you). My friends and my husband’s friends tease me equally. It comes up at every party, wedding and funeral. People assume they’d be able to take advantage of my driving just because I do not drink. The day I finally have my license will be a national holiday. In everyone’s defense and to my shame, most people in this country get their driver’s license by the time they’re 18 years old. Because I’m tired of being made fun of (for this anyway) this will finally be the year. I’ll help the drunks be drunks.

Deadline: June 2020 (6 months sounded like enough time)

Steps Taken: Enrolled in school and paid for the whole thing, lessons start in February.

Because I’m someone with soooo many goals *laughs maniacally*, stay tuned for part 2.

Love you to Spain and back.

Mrs. Martins.

** I don’t know why but this post took me 3 hours to write and edit. **

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5 Things

Hey there everyone,

It’s been nearly 4 months since my last post. That’s a third of the year without posting. That’s very sad and disappointing but life is happening and I’m not the person I’d like to be and definitely not the blogger I’d like to be so let’s get over it and talk about something else already, Cheila.

I have so, so much to tell you all because well, 4 months. I need to control my writing and rambling urges though so I’ve decided to pick 5 things. I’ll tell you 5 things and that’ll be it for now.

  1. My wedding is in less than 2 months. The planning has been intense. I’m doing a whole series about the wedding and on wedding planning as I feel that I’ve learned so much that can be helpful to future brides. Also, I know that some people love weddings and enjoy reading about wedding planning in general. The most surprising thing about the wedding is how much of an emotional ride you’re in for. I was not expecting that at all. You get to know some people all over again and realise that when people say “I’m here for you”, they don’t always mean it. Not everyone, at least. Sometimes I feel like I’m planning a big party and that everyone wants to attend and look their best and eat and drink but no one remembers why we’re throwing it in the first place.
  2. I’ve changed jobs. I’ve changed jobs 4 times in one year and it has been exhausted for someone who had been doing the same for so many years. I’m not back at teaching. Not even close. I work for an online bank now. I’ve been here for 3 months. I like it very much. I’ve learned that people actually pay for sex work and write “pussy lick” as a description for a bank transfer. I’ve lived enough. I can die peacefully now, I’ve seen it all.
  3. I’ve made new friends. You know it’s hard to make friends as an adult because everyone has their own life to live and their own problems and spouses or relationships, kids, parents, jobs, stress sources. So it makes me very happy to say that I made a very special friend at work. I don’t know how it happened but she became one of my best friends and she’s coming to my wedding. Last time I met someone I can consider a best friend was my first year of university, 2011. I’m either picky or special people don’t come my way very often. I feel so lucky to have met her.
  4. We’re going to Gran Canaria for our honeymoon. I’ll do nothing but reading, sleeping, going to the beach and the pool for a whole week. I’m already looking at bathing suits online.
  5. I’ve been reading like a maniac for months. I wish I wasn’t so lazy so I could do some reviews. I’m currently on book 70 since 27/11/2018. This makes me happy. I’m currently reading Scarlet by Alexandra Ripley, the “sequel” to Gone With the Wind. I’ve been watching series as well. Since April I’ve watched:
  • Chernobyl (5/5)
  • Big Little Lies, Season 2 (3/5)
  • La Casa de Papel, Season 2 (4/5)
  • Divorce, Season 3 (2/5)
  • Game of Thrones, Season 8 (1/5)
  • Currently watching season 7 of Orange is the New Black and Season 3 of The Handmaid’s Tale.

I guess that’s it for today. I miss blogging but I wanna do it by tiny pieces.

I also want to redesign the blog as I’m done with the way it looks now. I’ll get to it.

Have a lovely day.

Chey

 

 

 

 

Bloggers Talk About Mental Health Support Group on Facebook – Will you join us?

Just used our little group to vent a little and it felt great. If you need to talk, you know you can go there and we’ll be there for you. ❤️

Bloggers Talk About Mental Health Support Group

Hello Fellow Bloggers,

I have been talking about my struggles with anxiety, depression and ,possibly, Bipolar Disorder Type II since I started this blog a year ago. I was never ashamed to put it out there. I mean, I’m lying. I was NO LONGER ashamed to put it out there. There was a lot of shame once.

There was also loneliness.

That is why I decided to start this Facebook group where we can all talk, support each other, vent, complain, share experiences and frustrations, all with people who DO understand.

I know many of you struggle with mental health issues as well, so I thought we could all be together in this. Will you be my shoulder to cry on? I will be very happy to be yours.

Look for the group, share with your friends who needed us as well.

Love…

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World Book Day Blog Party 🎉 🎉 🎉

Will you join my friend’s blog party? For true book lovers!

Wonderwall

It is World book day today, this is what the World book club website, has to say about today:

World Book Day Ltd is a small, registered charity. The financing of World Book Day comes mainly from contributing publishers, the generous sponsorship of National Book Tokens Ltd, some literacy partnerships and other supporters, as well as the participating booksellers who fund the entire cost of the Book Token redemption.

Children England get a voucher to exchange for one of the books especially produced for the day or a £1 off a book of their choosing. Why can adults not get a voucher too? If you got a voucher which book would you choose?

School children often get to dress as characters from books to go to school. The only problem today is a lot of schools are closed due to snow.

So for those snowed in, those not snowed in…

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