Introducing Mr.R – A love story (11.02.2017)

Today I want you to meet by better half, Rui. I keep talking about him in every post but he’s so great that he should have his own post. I will also write about our story and how we met.

So, as I’ve told you, his name is Rui. It’s a very common name in Portugal. He’s 26 years old and a computer science engineer (or systems analyst, his position). He loves his job and he’s very good at it. He’s the kind of person that everyone goes to when they need help or when they want something done. He’s very good at solving problems and finding solutions for different situations. He’s so smart and knows a little bit about everything. When he doesn’t, he will for sure learn about it. He has the mind of an engineer and I can’t imagine him doing anything else.

He grew up in the countryside, in a small village. He has a younger brother. He loves agriculture and has a great vegetable garden (and a blog where he writes about it) that he takes really good care of. We are still eating frozen veggies from last Summer. I think that he will be a farmer when once he’s retired.

He loves to cook and is really great at it. He helps me with everything around the house. I mean, he doesn’t help me because that makes it sound like it’s my obligation and he just helps, which is not the case. We each have tasks and he picks up the slack when I’m unable to do mine. He knows how to do everything, other thank folding clothes. He can iron his own shirts, which most men I know can’t.

He’s great with our dog, Rosa and she can do whatever she wants with him. He’s like a daddy with his little girl. He didn’t like dogs at all and we only got her because he thought she would help me with my depression because he had read that a pet can be a great comfort.

We met in January of 2013 and started dating on March 23rd of the same year. We met online, in a chat room and we started talking every single day. We got really close and would talk all day long, by text, Skype, Facebook or whatever was available. We realized from the very beginning that we had so much in common. We believed in the same things and we wanted the same things. It was a perfect match but… we were living in different cities, 200 km apart. At the time, he had just finished his degree and was looking for a job but had always said he didn’t want to move to Lisbon (the capital, where I lived). Until one day, when he decided that it might be an option. He went to an interview and didn’t tell me anything until he got the job. I was over the moon when he told me that he was coming to Lisbon and that we would be living in the same city, which I had though as impossible. He moved to Lisbon, we met face to face for the first time and the rest is history. We’ve been together ever since, almost four years now. We have been living together for two years and have moved twice. We have been through so much in the past four years but that has only made us stronger.

He’s my rock, my best friend and the only person who knows how to take care of me and deal with my crises. When we found out I had depression he did a lot of research in order to be able to support me as much as he could, to know what he should and shouldn’t say, to know what he could do to make me better. He has been helping me ever since, being patient and kind and encouraging. He makes sure I take my pills, that I go to my doctor’s appointments and that I have all the help that I need. He always says that it doesn’t matter how much we spend, as long as I have the best possible care. He has given me the option to stay home if I wanted to, just because working was becoming too hard. He does everything for me and always listens. He pays attention to the little things and is always giving me flowers or little presents. If I need him, he will be there for me. He’s just the best and I love him so much.

Of course he has some flaws, like everyone else. He’s not great at putting things back where they belong and always leaves his wet towel… everywhere. He always says yes to everything you ask him, but then you have to ask like 5 times and wait about 6 months. Those are the ones that real bother me. But then he’s so cute and funny and sweet and that makes me forget about what he does wrong. He’s a good guy with a great heart and everyone loves him. He’s one of the good ones and the best partner a girl could ask for. I’m really lucky and I tell everyone that.