Health for days journey – May 30th (update)

Good evening friends,

I’m kind of sad and a bit surprised about something. Someone has stopped reading my blog because of my cursing. I didn’t think it was that bad.

Remember my survey from a few days ago? When I asked “Do you think I curse too much? Should I use less explicit language and topics?” someone answered:

“Yes, please. I actually stopped reading your posts because of the language and words. I don’t want to read those words and don’t enjoy seeing them.”

Well, I guess I asked, right?

I didn’t realize I was offending someone. That is never my intention. I write spontaneously as if I was talking. Do you want me to lie to you and pretend like I’m such a lady who doesn’t say any bad words in real life? That’s not me. I’m imperfect. I’m just a human being. I’m no lady, I’m even a sinner. But I’m honest, you see the real me and I don’t lie to my readers or sugarcoat things at all. I think everyone is entitled to stop reading if the content is offensive in any way but I would just like someone to be honest and tell me openly that they don’t like it, instead of using an anonymous survey. I would never do that to someone. I surely didn’t like to know something like this through a survey. Maybe, if they had said “yes, it’s a bit too much” I would be fine, but to know they have stopped reading? It makes me a little sad. What if more people feel the same? I ask all of you, please tell me. Are you bothered by my use of words such as “fuck”, “shit”, “bitch”, etc? Are going to stop reading anytime soon because of it? Do you think I talk about my private life too much? I mean, I do talk about epilation and gynaecologist appointments and whatever, but it’s my life. What can I do?

Anyway, I’m not sure I should change my ways because of a reader. Maybe not even because of 20 readers, if that were the case. This is my blog. Should I contain myself while writing on my personal blog? I don’t think so but maybe I’m wrong.

I’m sorry about the rant guys, you know I just talk about anything and everything.

Now, onto my to-do list: (Don’t expect anything too great)

  • I’m going to focus on the kitchen. I haven’t washed any dishes since about Thursday or Friday, so everything is a huge mess. So, in the kitchen I should:
    1. Wash the enormous pile of dishes; – Done;
    2. Clean the microwave, wash the microwave plate; – Nope;
    3. See what has spoiled in the fridge (and then slap me on the face because my goal for 2017 is not to waste food), clean the shelves, above the fridge, behind and under; – Took out a few spoiled foods (shame on me) but didn’t clean the fridge at all;
    4. Clean the shelves and everything that is on them because it gets dust; – Nope;
    5. Clean the coffee machines; – Nope;
    6. See if my bunch of watercress is still possible to save and make a soup; – Watercress = dead (super shame on me)
    7. Take out the trash; – Rui did;
    8. Clean the table; – Half done;
    9. Clean the counters; – Nope;
    10. Vacuum and mop the floor; – Nope;
    11. Make some jello; – Nope;
    12. Cook dinner; – Done;
    13. Maybe bake some cupcakes? I have a new decorating kit!! – Nope;
  • Second point of focus in laundry. It was raining so I’m a bit behind but today the weather is good; – Washed 3 loads, one is dry, two are drying;
  • I should also change my sheets; – Will do before bed. It takes 5 minutes;
  • I would like to plant some flower seeds and do some gardening but I’m not sure I’ll have the time because Rui is coming home at 4.30 and we’re going grocery shopping and to a gardening store because I want some more seeds and some rubber gardening gloves (better safe than sorry, right?); – Didn’t have time to do any gardening but found a cute pair of gloves, some garden scissors, 2 plants that need saving and a few more seeds.
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Seeds: Summer flowers mix, Colorful flower mix, Deep pink carnations, Violets, Common Yarrow.

  • When it comes to blogging, today you can expect “The Perfect Party blogging series”, featuring Elsie.  (Done). It should have been up by noon but I didn’t have time to prepare it yesterday. I’m usually so organized and like to plan things ahead but, apparently, when it comes to blogging, I’m a bit more spontaneous and do things on the day they’re being published or the day before (very rare). So I’m sorry, but I’m going to publish it later.You can also expect my challenge posts from yesterday and today, which are the final ones! The month is over. (Will be publishing soon).

Now, about my Giveaway. There are only 5 hours left until it’s closed and I announce the winner. Here’s the link if you want to try your luck: a Rafflecopter giveaway

Remember I’m offering a purchase from a store of your choice, up to 25€!!


About my “Perfect Party Series”, I want to give you the dates for each person I will be featuring. Not all of them have emailed me yet, so I’ll tell you about the ones that already have a set date, in the order I’ve received the emails:

Tomorrow: Hannah

Thursday: Dippy-Dotty Girl

Friday: Angela

Monday, June 5: Ella

Tuesday, June 6: Janey

Wednesday, June 7: Lee

Thursday, June 8: Wonderwall (The super winner) (You’ve told me your name in your description, can I say your first name?)

Friday, June 9: Cherylene

Monday, June 12: Anni

Tuesday, June 13: Amelia

Wednesday, June 14: Friederike

Thursday, June 15: Nina

Friday, June 16: Thegeckoonline

Monday, June 19: Adila

Tuesday, June 20: Gracie

Wednesday, June 21: Life as easy as

(…)

Still waiting for a few people to email me!

That’s it for now.

xx

Cheila

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42 thoughts on “Health for days journey – May 30th (update)

  1. Elsie LMC says:

    Just like you said, its your blog. I’m not offended by that language as I speak like it too 😂 not on my blog but around family. Its a difficult subject but it’s not like you were talking about murdering someone (that was the first comparison that came into my head 🙄😂). It’s never crossed my mind that you overly swear on your blog but maybe one word can be too much for some and I understand that. You are being yourself and that is admirable 😄💗

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  2. Jainey says:

    Chey. Feel free to be yourself. Don’t change for anybody. Otherwise you wouldn’t be my Chey Bear. 😉 😉
    I’m with Elsie. If you overly swear on your blog, I never noticed!! 😀 😀
    Continue being yourself.

    P.S. Good job getting so much done. And yes! shame on you @ watercress. 😛 😛

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  3. starringpamela says:

    I’m not offended by your choice of words and in fact I like it because I feel like I’m actually hearing from you what you want to say, not what you feel like you should say. I’m not a fan of censorship, so I think you should write however you want!

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  4. Small town Rambler says:

    i’m not offended by your language. be yourself, this is your blog! if someone doesn’t like it they can move on. really, why did they even say anything is my opinion?!?
    btw I love the flower seeds you picked out!

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  5. Lee says:

    It doesn’t bother me, but once you put something out there not everyone’s gonna like how you put it out. It’s your blog, you have over 1,000 followers and many that read no matter what that are actually like friends now, so keep doing what feels right to you✨

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  6. Stella says:

    I’m not certain that I have even come upon many swear words in your posts…at the end of the day, you can’t please everyone and is it worth added self-censorship to try? I’m not encouraging anyone to be overtly uncensored but if an occasion merits swear words, I say use them with gusto 😊 Nice of you to care enough to ask though!

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  7. mintyfreshie says:

    It’s your blog, meaning it is a space for you to write whatever you want, and people can read it if it appeals to them! Don’t change yourself for anyone- if they don’t like it, then they don’t have to read it xxx

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  8. 3sistersabroad says:

    Stay true to yourself xx…Its funny as I read your blog I feel like we are sitting at a cafe having a coffee and chatting. Your posts are so real. If you swear well guess what so do I. Sometimes I can only muster a swear word as Im way too angry to find a word and a swear word is so much easier. Sometimes the fog that swallows my brain leaves only swear words. Thats life. Don’t change for anyone but yourself. xxx Oh and this is your blog, your words, your life.

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  9. swearpolitely says:

    I don’t think that you swear too much at all. Who gives a fk anyways?! This is your space. That chick was just waiting around for your survey to say she was offended? No damn back bone. My opinion is she just continued to follow you “after being offended” when she could’ve stopped at the 1st instance.

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  10. lifeofangela says:

    That’s interesting about the swearing and that they’ve stopped reading your posts because of it. You don’t swear too often I thought, or else maybe my brain just kinda skims over it cause it doesn’t bother me? Either way, I say stick to what you want to do. It’s your blog right? If it’s how you’d talk, then it’s how you’d write.
    Also, looks like your party series is gonna carry you through the next month pretty much XD

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    • Cheila says:

      I know I can’t please everyone, that’s impossible and will never happen. I would just prefer if this person was honest gave their opinion openly. Thank you for your support ❤

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  11. Shweta Suresh says:

    You’re right, dear. It’s your blog and you get to decide the content. I agree with Roxy Starr. If they’d stopped reading, then I wonder how they came across the survey. You don’t have to change! Do keep writing. We’re all here for you. ❤😊

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  12. madkatter13 says:

    Dearest Cheila – first and foremost I fucking love your style. I am also not a delicate lady allll the time soooo this is also why we are friends haha. You know, I noticed that my gyno post did not get a lot of love and I think it is because of the same situation. Which is bittersweet, but we cannot make everyone happy. Perhaps we are too honest for some and shameless? I would prefer to be that way than censored and feel restrained in something that I am doing for myself, I am sure you feel the same. Regardless, think of all the followers and friends that you do have. Clearly most LOVE you just the way you are 🙂 and that is great, I mean even statistically speaking. The odds are in for your favor *cue Mocking jay whistle*

    Keep doing you, we love you! Many others will love you too 🙂 If someone happens to not like your style, then they are free not to read it. Damn feedback -.-

    LOVE YOU!

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    • Cheila says:

      You’re fucking awesome haha. I did love your gyno post, I mean, most of us are girls, we should be able to talk about downstairs. Who should we talk to? Friends, obviously. I have no shame. Also, I have discovered that it is indeed a choice between shaving or waxing, it’s down to personal preference. So your post helped me to get that figured out. Did you know I’ve just got your postcard? I tweeted about it but couldn’t find you. Do you have an account? I’m so happy that you have my back and support me, I do the same for you. You’re one of my blogger best friends and I just love you the way you are. Haha Hunger Games references are always welcome too. Thank you, love. ❤

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      • madkatter13 says:

        Gaw thanks! Also, you are right! We ladies should be more open about these things – yeessshh. Thank you so much for all your support too my love!!!

        AND I AM GLAD YOU GOT YOUR CARD!!!! YAY!!!! I was terrified it would get lost along the way 😦 also… sorry my HP glasses were a bit crooked lol. In terms of perfect circles, I just cannot. Now that I know items will safely make it and the timing, I am so going to send you random finds! Perhaps something Ohio and fun… not our lame post cards.

        You are one of my best blogger friends too my dear! I am so happy we met!!! Also…. no Twitter for this girl, I fear I would not know how to operate it lol. Just insta really for me. I am stupid with “the social media” LOL!!!

        I hope you have a great day lovely!!! <3<3<3 keep being your badass/fierce/girl boss self!

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  13. Natalie Vinh says:

    I’ve told you a million times that my favorite part about your blog is how raw it is! I think that’s what sets it apart from everyone else’s. I feel like it’s not really offensive as you aren’t using it derogatorily or in order to hurt anyone’s feelings, but that’s just me. Also, was I supposed to email you, because I can’t remember!

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  14. Amy | muscleMATTERS says:

    The last thing I think about you when I think of your blog is “bad language.” I tend to swear, myself so I guess I don’t really notice it in your posts.

    I read your posts for the personal level that you go to. It’s part of your charm. And I’m sure it’s a huge part of why you have such a huge following.

    You just keep doing you, Cheila! ❤️

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  15. gracie chick says:

    Personally I don’t curse on my blog, but it doesn’t offend me when others do. Your content is great and inspiring and you are who you are. People can always be critical and that’s their choice. Learn from people’s advice and change positively if you feel its true and right. I don’t think you should change your way of writing in this case though. Swearing shouldn’t be done in excess, but to make a point it really works! It shows passion. I like how you write, Cheila.

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  16. tlohuis says:

    I’m sorry you lost a reader, but this is your blog. I use my blog to express myself. I can do whatever I like there and if someone doesn’t like my language or that I go thru really rough times and sometimes write things that aren’t very uplifting, that’s their problem, not mine. But, I just write about what is going on at the time; good or bad………….Life with chronic illnesses really sucks. And, I talk the way I want to talk. I use the same words you do. It’s not like it’s every other sentence or anything, but I say, “if you don’t like it, you don’t have to read it.” I have people that read my blog and they don’t talk like that, but because they’ve gotten to know me, they hang with me………………This is your blog!!!! You do what you want here. 🙂 Take care!

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